Four Good Reads If You’re Going Through a Heartbreak
self-care

Four Good Reads If You’re Going Through a Heartbreak

Eat Pray Love book

Going through a heartbreak, whether from a break-up or a setback in your life, is a difficult time. It is easy to fall into a pit of despair and feel like everything is hopeless. But while it may seem like a bleak period in your life, it can also be a time for new beginnings and opportunities. You can turn things around doing things like life purpose planning and taking deliberate steps to bounce back stronger than ever. And should you need some inspiration, here are some of the books on dealing with heartbreaks and the heartwarming quotes you can find in them.

1. Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia by Elizabeth Gilbert
“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.”

2. Getting Past Your Break-Up: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott, JD, MSEd
“You don’t need answers or explanations to find closure. No matter what the loss, the closure comes from inside you.”

3. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”

4. Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

How to Give Yourself Some Self-Love
self-care

How to Give Yourself Some Self-Love

relax

Everyone needs love. But if there is one mistake a lot of people make in search for it, it would be this — forgetting to give some self-love. It may sound cliche and selfish, but loving yourself first is one of the foundations of building healthy relationships.

Sometimes, you just have to say no. Most people find it difficult to say no for fear of disappointing others and for a whole lot of other reasons. Learning to say no is one of the many ways to show love to yourself. Say no if someone asks you do something you do not want to do or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Forcing yourself can suck out the happiness out of you.

Carve out alone time. Schedule alone times and use them to pamper yourself. You can use the time for quiet reflection or to pursue your passions. Treat yourself well by getting a relaxing massage, eating a fancy dinner in your favorite restaurant, watching a movie or a play, and so much more.

Make time for what you love. A great way to love yourself better is to do what you love. While it may sound simple, applying it in your daily life can be a challenge. Your various responsibilities at home, work, and in your other personal or career commitments may leave you little time for anything else. Show yourself some love by celebrating and doing the things that matter to you.

Practice gratitude. Be grateful for who you are and all your accomplishments. Be thankful about things that make you unique even your quirks. Being grateful for everything that you are is a great way to manifest self-love.

Be the first to cheer you on. You face different challenges every day. Recognize your small wins in overcoming obstacles in your path. Give yourself appropriate rewards. This shows that you recognize your own worth and value your accomplishments.

Be your authentic self. Express yourself even if what you say or do does not please everyone in your social circle. It would help to keep in mind that there is no chance that you can please everybody in the first place. Just make sure that you express yourself appropriately to avoid hurting others.

Pick your battles. Avoid wasting your energy on negativity. You may not be able to shield yourself completely from negative experiences and chatter around you, but you can choose how to react to it. Soak up as much positivity as you can and maximize your energy into more worthwhile pursuits.