Building Stronger Friendships: How to Be That Friend Everyone Wants to Have
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Building Stronger Friendships: How to Be That Friend Everyone Wants to Have

Great friendships are built on solid relationships. While there is no such thing as a perfect friend, anyone can still be that one person that everyone would want to have in life. So how can you be the best friend for the people you care about? Here are some ways to building and nurturing friendships that last a lifetime.

Manage your expectations. One of the ways to be a good friend is to accept people for who they are. You may be able to have an influence on someone at some level, but it would be unrealistic and unfair to think that you can change or shape a person’s life the way you want to. The more you set unrealistic expectations, the more you set yourself up for disappointments. Accepting a person for who he or she is means recognizing and embracing the imperfections.

Be present – in good and in bad times. One of the many ways to be a great friend is to be there for someone on life’s highs and lows. Be genuinely happy in celebrating the good things that happen with your friends. And when things go bad, be among the first to console them.

Spend quality time with your friends. It would be easy to let your mind wander when you have a lot of things on your plate. Being a great friend could be as simple as being present in the moments you spend with them. Listen, observe for non-verbal cues, and be genuinely interested on what is going on with your friends.

Treasure the trust. Guard your friends’ secrets well. Betraying confidences can ruin good friendships. Friends usually tell you things they would not otherwise reveal to just about anyone. Make sure that you appreciate the confidence and honor it.

Be honest. Honesty is important in friendships. But there are times when telling the truth may be uncomfortable, especially if it can potentially hurt a friend. However, the truth may just what your friends need to grow or gain more self-knowledge. Tell the truth as objectively and constructively as you can.

Pay attention. Pay attention to what your friend may or may not be telling you. Listen and observe without judging regardless of your personal feelings about the subject. Sometimes friends just want to vent their feelings. Listen to what they have to say and avoid making judgments.

Keep in touch. Make time to get in touch regardless of how hectic life may get at your end. Find ways to communicate or spend time together. Let your friend know that you will always be there even if things get busy.

Handyman Friendship 101: How to Strengthen Your Relationship with Your Handyman
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Handyman Friendship 101: How to Strengthen Your Relationship with Your Handyman

In http://thyblackman.com/2018/06/04/7-relationships-every-adult-man-should-have/, we’ve learned that an adult man ought to have a good relationship with a handyman. After all, handymen can make things easier to achieve projects at home. So, how do you strengthen your friendship with your handyman? Here are some tips:

Be friendly

friendly-stHandymen need to be friendly to their clients. That’s given. But you should also treat them with respect. It’s the golden rule. You have to treat others the same way you want to be treated. Some of them (especially beginners) may have trouble talking to you comfortably, so it’s best to show them that they are welcome. They can’t fix your doors, cut your tiles, or patch the holes in your wall with ease if they don’t feel welcome.

Be honest

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Is the job urgent? Then tell them that. You can’t expect them to double time if you didn’t tell them how crucial the task was. Not everyone can read your mind. So, to avoid misunderstandings, be sure to tell them what they need to know. You could text them, call them, or email them ahead so that they still have time to analyze how they must address the situation when they get to your house. Tell them every detail about the job beforehand. And if there are methods or tools you don’t wish for them to use, inform them with a calm and respectful voice. However, if they don’t need to know about it, then don’t tell them. You don’t have to be an entirely open book. You could summarize what they need to know before emailing them.

Also, if they have done a terrible job at something, you should tell them so that they can make things better. Telling them, they did an excellent job when they have done the exact opposite won’t help them improve their skills. You have to tell them what they did wrong so they can avoid doing the same mistake in the future.

Be kind and considerate

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If the job will take too long to finish, say the whole day, then don’t forget to give them a break. Handymen are humans as well; they aren’t machines. You could offer them lunch or give them time to eat their lunch somewhere. Offer them a glass of water or juice in the middle of the day if necessary. It’s your way of thanking them for doing the things you can’t perform at your own house. Besides, showing them kindness and consideration will make them work harder. Handymen appreciate it when their bosses aren’t too harsh to them. Plus, you can avoid being victims of theft and murder if you treat your handymen well, especially since there have been recent crimes related to their profession.

The bottom line is to show respect to these people. They train, move from house to house and work hard just like any other man. Treat them with compassion, and you’ll be treated the same way. I assure you.

Coffee and Singleness
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Coffee and Singleness

You might have been broken lately after ending a relationship you’ve tried so hard to save. You could also be in misery because you’ve been waiting for the right partner to come along. You might be sad about having to face singleness for the first time or once again. But whatever the reason behind your singleness is, know that there’s one thing that will make you feel better: drinking coffee.

It may sound absurd, but coffee can help you cope up with the feeling of restlessness and loneliness.

According to research, these are the things coffee can do for you:

Boost your mood

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Feeling down isn’t a great feeling at all. Good thing drinking coffee can increase the amount of norepinephrine and dopamine in the body, leading to the better firing of neurons. A lot of brain functions are improved when coffee enters the body, and one of them is the mood and energy level. Being single may mean you’re alone, but being alone doesn’t imply that you’re lonely. A single cup of coffee can enhance your mood for the day, no matter how long you’ve been single. If you want to learn how to make your own cup of coffee, here’s a great article from Coffee-channel.

Enhance your memory

You may not want to remember the stuff about love that makes you sad, but there are things you have to bear in mind, especially if you’re an office worker. Well, actually, whatever your job is, enhanced working memory is beneficial. So, take a sip of coffee in the morning, and get your mind ready to familiarize other helpful and more meaningful things instead of the ones that don’t inspire you.

Improve your alertness and attention

When we’re depressed, we tend to exhibit inattention, leading to an unproductive day. And an unproductive day won’t help us become better individuals at all. To help you get that energized mind, go and indulge yourself in a warm, premium cup of coffee. You’ll see, your boss will commend you for not sleeping during the meeting.

Fight depression

coffee-cupIf you want to fight this mental disorder, you gotta turn to coffee. One Harvard study published in 2011 found out that women who drank four or more cups of coffee a day had a 20% lower risk of becoming depressed. Another research with 208,424 respondents discovered that coffee drinkers who drank 4 or more cups each day were 53% less likely to commit suicide. I guess that’s enough statistics to prove how coffee can help you in your situation right now.

Live long

Studies also confirm that coffee is associated with lower risk of death in both men and women, which means you can expect to live longer and have a longer chance of living happily.

Lower risk of cancer

Coffee has also been proven to reduce the chances of developing endometrial cancer, prostate cancer, skin cancer, and liver cancer. Now you no longer have to worry about your mental and physical health.

Here’s the infographic of this article for your reference:

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Building with The Right Saws
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Building with The Right Saws

Building and strengthening relationships need a lot of tools like trust, love, forgiveness, patience, effort, humility, kindness, and more.

It’s similar to building concrete stuff—you need the right saw for the job. This is why we’ll take a look at the different tools and their respective functions.

A saw is a handyman tool that’s comprised of a blade and a wire or chain. It’s for cutting through different materials like wood and metal. Below are the seven most common saws you need to be aware of:

Bandsaw

This stationary device is tailored to cut through wood, bone, meat, and other materials alike. It consists of a long steel band with a serrated edge that is connected to rotating wheels which enable the saw to move up and down swiftly.

Circular saw

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This handheld saw is one of the most useful tools for a carpentry contractor. This saw uses various types of blades, allowing it to be utilized for cutting through metal and stone. You’ll know it’s a circular saw if it has a rapidly revolving toothed disk.

Cutting edge saw

This handheld machine makes precise horizontal slices through pipes, rebar, and conduit. It features a left-side grip, which makes it easy to stabilize.

Hacksaw

NIC_80951_FRNT_MAIN-hacksawThis tool is a versatile tool that can be used for a lot of jobs. Its narrow fine-toothed blade has many serrations and is attached to a frame, making it ideal for gripping and cutting through plastic, wood, and metal.

Jigsaw

The jigsaw is a loved tool by many woodworkers. It’s used to create custom and detailed cuts. It has a thin and flexible blade that allows the user to create accurate turns and cuts. It can cut through wood, plastic, and metal. It’s perfect for projects that involve cutting a lot of irregular or odd shapes.

Mini-metal saw

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This saw is sometimes referred to as the special edition of a miter saw because it highlights a rotating blade that’s almost identical to the miter saw. This tool is for slicing through light gauge metal and threaded rods.

Miter saw

Finally, this device is used to create varying crosscuts at different angles. Its blade which is fixed inside rollers makes accurate cuts. The rollers enable the blade to move down once the handle is lowered. A miter saw has a plastic cover to decrease the chances of injury and to impede debris from spraying skyward. Miter saws, as well as abrasive cut off saws, are usually called as a chop saw.

 

Four Good Reads If You’re Going Through a Heartbreak
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Four Good Reads If You’re Going Through a Heartbreak

Going through a heartbreak, whether from a break-up or a setback in your life, is a difficult time. It is easy to fall into a pit of despair and feel like everything is hopeless. But while it may seem like a bleak period in your life, it can also be a time for new beginnings and opportunities. You can turn things around doing things like life purpose planning and taking deliberate steps to bounce back stronger than ever. And should you need some inspiration, here are some of the books on dealing with heartbreaks and the heartwarming quotes you can find in them.

1. Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman’s Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia by Elizabeth Gilbert
Eat Pray Love book“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.”

2. Getting Past Your Break-Up: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott, JD, MSEd
“You don’t need answers or explanations to find closure. No matter what the loss, the closure comes from inside you.”

3. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
“Any action is often better than no action, especially if you have been stuck in an unhappy situation for a long time. If it is a mistake, at least you learn something, in which case it’s no longer a mistake. If you remain stuck, you learn nothing.”

4. Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

How to Give Yourself Some Self-Love
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How to Give Yourself Some Self-Love

Everyone needs love. But if there is one mistake a lot of people make in search for it, it would be this — forgetting to give some self-love. It may sound cliche and selfish, but loving yourself first is one of the foundations of building healthy relationships.

Sometimes, you just have to say no. Most people find it difficult to say no for fear of disappointing others and for a whole lot of other reasons. Learning to say no is one of the many ways to show love to yourself. Say no if someone asks you do something you do not want to do or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Forcing yourself can suck out the happiness out of you.

Carve out alone time. Schedule alone times and use them to pamper yourself. You can use the time for quiet reflection or to pursue your passions. Treat yourself well by getting a relaxing massage, eating a fancy dinner in your favorite restaurant, watching a movie or a play, and so much more.

Make time for what you love. A great way to love yourself better is to do what you love. While it may sound simple, applying it in your daily life can be a challenge. Your various responsibilities at home, work, and in your other personal or career commitments may leave you little time for anything else. Show yourself some love by celebrating and doing the things that matter to you.

Practice gratitude. Be grateful for who you are and all your accomplishments. Be thankful about things that make you unique even your quirks. Being grateful for everything that you are is a great way to manifest self-love.

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Be the first to cheer you on. You face different challenges every day. Recognize your small wins in overcoming obstacles in your path. Give yourself appropriate rewards. This shows that you recognize your own worth and value your accomplishments.

Be your authentic self. Express yourself even if what you say or do does not please everyone in your social circle. It would help to keep in mind that there is no chance that you can please everybody in the first place. Just make sure that you express yourself appropriately to avoid hurting others.

Pick your battles. Avoid wasting your energy on negativity. You may not be able to shield yourself completely from negative experiences and chatter around you, but you can choose how to react to it. Soak up as much positivity as you can and maximize your energy into more worthwhile pursuits.